Observe and Learn

A lot can be learned about yourself when you take the role of observer. Our minds act as two somewhat separate minds. There is the one that does the thinking and doing. And, there is the one that observes it all. When you are truly meditating, you are attempting to let the observer take full control. Most of us don’t get to that point. But that is the goal. To observe your thoughts, and see what your mind would like you to be thinking.

When we are struggling with anger, anxiety, or depression it helps to try to be an observer of your thoughts. When something triggers your mind to feel hurt, betrayed, disrespected, or defensive you can sit with that for a moment. Consider what language is going off in your head. What is the message you are receiving? Why is it so strong? Why are you compelled to act in a way you might regret?

Many people find that sitting with those thoughts for a moment decrease the negative feeling. You might even be intrigued by how your thoughts can easily manipulate how you feel. With some effort, or therapy, you may learn how to have a different relationship with those thoughts. And, ideally, have those thoughts trigger a different decision. One that you will be proud of.